Soulpope MIA?

[jlhoots]

10 hours ago, jlhoots said:

"Ignore" has always worked for me. OTOH, how do you "demand an apology"?

Up thread "far fewer assholes" is kind of a funny endorsement.

To clarify, I believe it's O.K. to ask for "an apology". What does "demand" mean?

[JSngry]

To insist, with...heightened assertiveness.

Especially when the game seems to get an apology for something that didn't happen.

Some folks act like they expect to be right all the time, to get apologies than give them

Personally, I think it's vanity. If you have a shot take it. And then move on 

[John L]

10 hours ago, medjuck said:

Yes but meanwhile this is third person (all good contributors) I know of who has left the board because of something you said.  You, obviously, are knowledgeable, helpful and valuable to this board but not all opinions need to be said forcefully.

As we have discussed earlier, misunderstandings are easy on boards like this.  We cannot see each other or hear the tone of how something is expressed.  Non-native English speakers are particularly prone to misunderstandings.   It is quite common for people to take offense on boards like this and leave, even if the reason is a misunderstanding.  

I attribute the fact that more people may have left the board because of an interaction with Jim than with most of the rest of us to  (1) Jim posts more than the rest of us do and (2) he often expresses strong opinions.   Most of us appreciate Jim's participation in that regard very much.  Sure, we need to make an effort not to offend other people.  But making any sort of judgement in this case is not straightforward (IMO).   

[jlhoots]

Don't know why they left, but I miss chewy, Bev, Magnificent Goldberg & soulpope. Others not so much.

[JSngry]

Thanks  John. I really don't traffic in "personal attacks". Ideas on the other hand are fair game. But if I tell you "that's a stupid idea", it's not you that's stupid. It's the idea. Hell I have stupid ideas all the time myself.ore than you know.

But. you know, cop to it and move on

 

5 minutes ago, jlhoots said:

Don't know why they left, but I miss chewy, Bev, Magnificent Goldberg & soulpope. Others not so much.

Chewy lurks.

Bev is enjoying retirement.

MG is, I think. Slowing down with age 

Soulpope has volunteered his absence ....

[Kevin Bresnahan]

Part of the problem with regular posters like soulpope choosing to leave is that we aren't getting new members, so whenever any of us leave for an extended period, it creates a bit of a void.

FWIW, there is a huge waiting list of people wanting to get on the forum but a cursory look at the applicants' info shows that it's faked and the applicant is simply looking to spam the heck out of us, so I skip approving them.

Again, if anyone knows of someone legitimately trying to join the forum, contact me with their E-mail address.

BTW - the biggest problem with trying to screen these applicants is that almost all of them use gmail e-mail addresses. A gmail E-mail is almost impossible to Google to find a real person so I generally skip over them.

[jlhoots]

I miss Larry Kart too!!