Relationships

[Chuck Nessa]

Mine was confusing marital and martial arts.

[JSngry]

Uh... when did this happen?

Or do I not want to know?

[Chuck Nessa]

Uh... when did this happen?

Or do I not want to know?

Never happened. Just a topic starter. If it had happened, Ann would have killed me.

[JSngry]

Thank god.

[Larry Kart]

Mine was confusing marital and martial arts.

I once told someone -- unbelievably believing that this was true -- that paramedics were medical personnel who parachuted into war zones and disaster areas. This to a person who had enough of an investment in me being intelligent that she thought at first that I must be feebly putting her on. Wish I could have caught on soon enough to play it out that way, but no. And I'd begun it all by insisting that her correct use of the term was wrong.

[jazzbo]

I once made a mistake by getting into a particular relationship. Luckily, I was booted out pretty quickly.

[Shawn]

I dated a truly insane girl once (didn't realize it for a few weeks, she was on good behavior)...but when we had our first real argument...she pulled a steak knife out of the kitchen drawer and came at me with it. I was able to avoid injury and thankfully she quickly moved on to terrorize the rest of the human race.

[Dan Gould]

Mine was confusing marital and martial arts.

I once told someone -- unbelievably believing that this was true -- that paramedics were medical personnel who parachuted into war zones and disaster areas. This to a person who had enough of an investment in me being intelligent that she thought at first that I must be feebly putting her on. Wish I could have caught on soon enough to play it out that way, but no. And I'd begun it all by insisting that her correct use of the term was wrong.

When my parents met, they got into an argument - Mom insisted it was the KLU Klux Klan while Dad had to tell her it was the KU Klux Klan.

I have no doubt that Allen and 7/4 will have a field day with that.

[rachel]

Uh... when did this happen?

Or do I not want to know?

Never happened. Just a topic starter. If it had happened, Ann would have killed me.

That's the first thing I thought of ... that you confused the two and Ann kicked your ass.

[Hot Ptah]

Mistake? You mean like saying something ill-advised that gets your mate upset? I have done that twice....in the past 15 minutes.

[7/4]

Mine was confusing marital and martial arts.

I once told someone -- unbelievably believing that this was true -- that paramedics were medical personnel who parachuted into war zones and disaster areas. This to a person who had enough of an investment in me being intelligent that she thought at first that I must be feebly putting her on. Wish I could have caught on soon enough to play it out that way, but no. And I'd begun it all by insisting that her correct use of the term was wrong.

When my parents met, they got into an argument - Mom insisted it was the KLU Klux Klan while Dad had to tell her it was the KU Klux Klan.

I have no doubt that Allen and 7/4 will have a field day with that.

Actually, I can't think of anything to say.

Maybe this belongs in the political forum...

[Tom Storer]

If you mean "ever had a relationship that was a big mistake," yes, in a way, in that we proved to be incompatible. On the other hand, we were young, and one's first "big" relationship is often a mistake, but a crucial one in that, if you're smart or lucky or both, you learn enough about yourself and others to know better the next time around. Some mistakes you need to make.

[porcy62]

If you mean "ever had a relationship that was a big mistake," yes, in a way, in that we proved to be incompatible. On the other hand, we were young, and one's first "big" relationship is often a mistake, but a crucial one in that, if you're smart or lucky or both, you learn enough about yourself and others to know better the next time around. Some mistakes you need to make.

Agree, the problem is that usually I do the very same mistake: start a new relationship.

At the end I found myself talking about my problems with unknown people who has strange names and look like frog, elephant, hendrix, record's cover, or monk.

[AllenLowe]

"Mom insisted it was the KLU Klux Klan while Dad had to tell her it was the KU Klux Klan."

don't worry Dan, won't say a word, as long as the argument didn't occur during a membership drive -

[7/4]

"Mom insisted it was the KLU Klux Klan while Dad had to tell her it was the KU Klux Klan."

don't worry Dan, won't say a word, as long as the argument didn't occur during a membership drive -

Don't tell Sue Simmons about it and she won't tell the world.

[rostasi]

I dated a truly insane girl once (didn't realize it for a few weeks, she was on good behavior)...but when we had our first real argument...she pulled a steak knife out of the kitchen drawer and came at me with it. I was able to avoid injury and thankfully she quickly moved on to terrorize the rest of the human race.

I lived with her for about two years.

[jazzbo]

Okay here's one big mistake I made: I was not specific enough in my line of questioning and was deceived rather cleverly.

My first big relationship, lasted over a year, was pretty intense, suddenly started getting rather weird. My tomboy naturally so beautiful girlfriend suddenly started wearing makeup and suddenly her outings with a girlfriend or two seemed more important than my plans and I began to suspect she was seeing someone else.

So after some circuitous verbal maneuvering that wasn't very successful I did confront her and asked her if she was seeing another guy.

Well, she was very very convincing and I believed truthful in her denial, and became fairly attentive to me for a spell and I was lulled into a brief lack of suspicion. See she was being truthful. . . because she was seeing another woman! Within a month she had moved out and on to that relationship (and a series of others for quite soem time).

[Hot Ptah]

This is less unusual than you might think, jazzbo. I was surprised at 19 when a woman I was dating expressed great interest in the Playboy collection hidden under the bed in my dorm room. I figured out quickly that her really good female friend was more than that.

[jazzbo]

I actually didn't mean to imply this was unusual. I just realized over time I was deceived because my line of questioning left a loophole!

That was the only relationship I ever had that a woman cheated on me with another person of either gender.

Edited May 22, 2008 by jazzbo

[jazzbo]

Favorite movies about relationship mistakes anyone?

I favor "Open Your Eyes"/"Vanilla Sky."

[Ed S]

Relationships, Ever make a big mistake?

Short answer? Yes

Edited May 22, 2008 by Ed Swinnich

[Dan Gould]

That was the only relationship I ever had that a woman cheated on me with another person of either gender.

My last relationship before I met my wife was with someone who used me to confirm that she really preferred women.

Not sure if I took one for the team there or not.

[papsrus]

Wife cheated. Got a divorce. Same tell-tale signs as Jazzbo saw. What I learned was that if you suspect something, then it's probably happening. The signs are obvious in hindsight. At the time, I just rationalize them away. New friends, new sexy underwear (a big clue), new cellphone, etc., etc.

I remember I grabbed her cellphone instead of mine one day by mistake as I headed to work. She freaked. Told me to turn it off and put it away somewhere. ... Much of a clue there? I blew it off as her being possessive of her phone or something. Crystal clear now why she freaked.

[AllenLowe]

I figure if they don't like me they gotta be lesbians -

[AllenLowe]

but as Lenny Bruce said, never confess to that affair - even if she walks in on you:

"She's just a friend -"

"Than why was she lying on top of you?"

"We were trying to see who's taller - hey, she came into the room with a sign around her neck that said 'somebody lay on top of me or I'll die' - what else could I do?"

Edited May 22, 2008 by AllenLowe