What do y'all think the overall success rate of going on a date is

[trane_fanatic]

It could be set up through mutual friends, one you got yourself, or a personals ad online or elsewhere.

I would say that the percentage is probably really low as far as it leading to an actual relationship and only slightly higher as far as the chance of a second date is or sparks flying. Just too many factors and pressure involved. The best way to meet people is for it to happen naturally IMO. But as somebody who has tried online dating with sometimes promising but mostly futile & occasional bizzare results, what do I know?

What do you guys think?

Edited November 9, 2007 by trane_fanatic

[rostasi]

Depends on what yer definition of success is.

[sal]

Nearly every time I've been "set up", its failed. Never tried online dating.

However, when I've met a girl unintentionally without any pre-conceived intentions in the air, its worked out (meaning a second date) pretty much every time. Its nice that way because sparks can fly naturally, and the chemistry between man and woman can just follow its normal course. Putting that forced or artificial element in there just adds too much pressure, and I've found it more difficult to just be myself knowing that I was put in that situation, and the expectations that go along with that situation, rather than just falling into it.

Now, as far as that leading to a relationship, that's a whole other ballgame. But a few fun dates are always nice!

Edited November 9, 2007 by sal

[trane_fanatic]

Nearly every time I've been "set up", its failed. Never tried online dating.

However, when I've met a girl unintentionally without any pre-conceived intentions in the air, its worked out (meaning a second date) pretty much every time. Its nice that way because sparks can fly naturally, and the chemistry between man and woman can just follow its normal course. Putting that forced or artificial element in there just adds too much pressure, and I've found it more difficult to just be myself knowing that I was put in that situation, and the expectations that go along with that situation, rather than just falling into it.

Now, as far as that leading to a relationship, that's a whole other ballgame. But a few fun dates are always nice!

I hear ya, Sal. At least two of my best buddies met their life partner through a mutual friend though. Hmm.

[7/4]

Depends on what yer definition of success is.

Scoring.

Of course, as I got older, my definition matured a bit too.

[catesta]

Depends on what yer definition of success is.

Scoring.

Of course, as I got older, my definition matured a bit too.

No matter what your age is, that is still a pretty soild measurement of success, if you ask me.

[Van Basten II]

Gotta say i'm below the Mendoza line, so i've been relegated to the bench.

Edited November 9, 2007 by Van Basten II

[clifford_thornton]

OK Mario, scoring isn't that hard...

For me, that is the measure of success. If it turns into a relationship - a good one - then that's great. But if that's what you're out for on a first date, well, you're aiming too high.

[baptizum]

im may be a lonely bastard but yknow, its what you make of it. whatever that means but its true

[MoGrubb]

It's nice to think someone thinks of you as special, without strings attached, but it's a rarity. Most relationships, even intimate, have something to do with a business/exchange of sorts. I don't sweat it. Lonliness is a fact of life.

Edited November 10, 2007 by MoGrubb

[vibes]

Depends on what yer definition of success is.

Scoring.

When my brother was in college, he had a friend whose nickname was "Score." So, they made a big sign out of Christmas lights that read "SCORE" and would flash it in the window when they saw him walking to and from class. This being one of the most religious universities in the country (BYU), the girls didn't take kindly to the sign and filed a complaint with the university. No more "score" sign.