gslade Posted December 30, 2006 Report Posted December 30, 2006 My ex-wife used to refer to my love for jazz as "Randy's sick sick perversion." When we were dating I once took her to a Cecil Taylor concert at Symphony Space. After 20 minutes she rushed the stage screaming obscenities and had to be forcibly removed from the hall. During our first year of marriage I once came home early from work and caught her scratching my LPs with a can opener. Whenever a jazz musician's obituary appeared in the NY Times she would scribble "GOOD RIDDANCE" in red ink across the article and put it under my pillow. Then things really started going downhill... Quote
robinjessome Posted January 1, 2007 Report Posted January 1, 2007 I lucked out, because she and I are both musicians - she's often worse than I am for buying new records... Quote
Tom 1960 Posted January 1, 2007 Report Posted January 1, 2007 I have to laugh at some of the commentary here. I certainly can relate. My wife threatens to have a garage sale and sell off my music collection. She doesn't even know about my vinyl collection I keep upstairs in the attic. Quote
jazzbo Posted January 1, 2007 Report Posted January 1, 2007 I lucked out, because she and I are both musicians - she's often worse than I am for buying new records... Certainly a different experience than many of us! Welcome to the board! Quote
Son-of-a-Weizen Posted January 3, 2007 Report Posted January 3, 2007 and pay for it out of "my own" money, she's tolerant. No offense intended.....but this "my own" money thing between some married couples is something that is quite foreign to me. I don't quite get what it's all about. ....or were you just joking? Quote
Chuck Nessa Posted January 3, 2007 Report Posted January 3, 2007 Guess I'm amazingly lucky. My wife likes (deals with) all the music and musicians. Not saying she understands everything but she has been by my side for 40+ years. Guess I'm really lucky. Quote
The Magnificent Goldberg Posted January 3, 2007 Report Posted January 3, 2007 and pay for it out of "my own" money, she's tolerant. No offense intended.....but this "my own" money thing between some married couples is something that is quite foreign to me. I don't quite get what it's all about. ....or were you just joking? No joke, though all our income is my pension. I draw out cash every week for our small stuff - meals/drinks out, trips to hairdresser, make up, garden plants etc are what she spends it on; tobacco, books and records for me; and I also spend some on favourite groceries in a few specialist delicatessens. If I want to buy stuff on the web, I have to save it out of this cash and put it into a specific account, which feeds a specific credit card. The point is never to let buying records come before the family needs; that was easier while I was working, of course. MG Quote
Bright Moments Posted March 8, 2009 Report Posted March 8, 2009 note to self - saying "honey i think that i might start collecting vinyl" is not condusive to marital bliss. Quote
Ron S Posted March 8, 2009 Report Posted March 8, 2009 note to self - saying "honey i think that i might start collecting vinyl" is not condusive to marital bliss. Maybe she thought you meant vinyl siding? Quote
Shrdlu Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 A friend of mine groaned to me the other day "Girls don't like music". "I know, I know", I replied. I've never met a woman who didn't fidget and remain restless while I was playing jazz live, or playing a record. Funny thing is, my late wife had a degree in "classical" music and played the violin and piano real well. One thing she did do for me musically was to hip me to the best "classical" players and pieces. But I don't listen to "classical" much, simply because it doesn't swing, and if it don't swing, then ....... Quote
EKE BBB Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 Well, mmm, errrrr.... let's forget it! Quote
jazzbo Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 A friend of mine groaned to me the other day "Girls don't like music". "I know, I know", I replied. I've never met a woman who didn't fidget and remain restless while I was playing jazz live, or playing a record. Funny thing is, my late wife had a degree in "classical" music and played the violin and piano real well. One thing she did do for me musically was to hip me to the best "classical" players and pieces. But I don't listen to "classical" much, simply because it doesn't swing, and if it don't swing, then ....... My girlfriend. . . one of her many virtues to me is her love of music. . . she just listens all the time, as I do, and to different material. She's open to my collection, and I'm open to hers. It's GREAT. (Everything is great with her! I'm a lucky man.) Quote
Niko Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 my girlfriend has recently discovered my doubles as a source of birthday presents for her colleagues... increased the tolerance a bit i guess (also has the consequence that her colleagues lent her their pat metheny and diana krall cds to listen to in return since at work she now has to pretend she likes jazz)... Quote
Teasing the Korean Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 My wife shares my obsession and is responsible for a significant percentage of the jazz and groovy albums in our house, including Lalo Schifrin's "Gone with the Wave" (Colpix) and Kenyon Hopkins's "Lonelyville" (ABC). When I found she had an original copy of Les Baxer's soundtrack for the biker flick "Hell's Belles" (AIP), was hooked. When we merged our LP collections and unloaded the duplicates, I knew there was no turning back. Quote
papsrus Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 my girlfriend has recently discovered my doubles as a source of birthday presents for her colleagues... increased the tolerance a bit i guess (also has the consequence that her colleagues lent her their pat metheny and diana krall cds to listen to in return since at work she now has to pretend she likes jazz)... She's raiding your collection! Trying to whittle it down one duplicate at a time. This is not tolerance, it's an evil plot masquerading as some sort of indulgence. The woman I'm with enjoys my interest in music. I think she thinks it's kind of a cute, eccentric sort of thing. I don't think she understands the depth of my obsession yet though (with the music, that is). Quote
Niko Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 my girlfriend has recently discovered my doubles as a source of birthday presents for her colleagues... increased the tolerance a bit i guess (also has the consequence that her colleagues lent her their pat metheny and diana krall cds to listen to in return since at work she now has to pretend she likes jazz)... She's raiding your collection! Trying to whittle it down one duplicate at a time. This is not tolerance, it's an evil plot masquerading as some sort of indulgence. worst thing about it is that i have to make up something nice to say about those metheny cds... Quote
medjuck Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 My wife has taken up playing electric guitar and is now more obsessed with music than I am. Buys almost as many cds as me and wants to go to more concerts than I do. We have enough overlap in taste that it's all ok. Quote
paul secor Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 Since this is back up, I'll add something. There are times when Joan tells me that she is envious of the fact that I have a hobby that I can become so engrossed in. (I don't tell her that for me, "hobby" doesn't come close as a description. "A way of life" might be more accurate .) There are other times when she says kiddingly that she's thinking of putting my collection out in the front yard and selling everything for 10 cents each. I'll worry about that one when I think she's serious. (And I hope I'll be able to stop her before you guys find out.) Quote
BeBop Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 If was about hoarding CDs/LPs, she wouldn't be very happy about it...and I wouldn't blame her. But since, for me, it's about music, all's cool. Quote
Jazzmoose Posted March 9, 2009 Report Posted March 9, 2009 Since this is back up, I'll add something. There are times when Joan tells me that she is envious of the fact that I have a hobby that I can become so engrossed in. (I don't tell her that for me, "hobby" doesn't come close as a description. "A way of life" might be more accurate .) There are other times when she says kiddingly that she's thinking of putting my collection out in the front yard and selling everything for 10 cents each. I'll worry about that one when I think she's serious. (And I hope I'll be able to stop her before you guys find out.) Um...could I have her email address? And maybe directions to your house? Quote
paul secor Posted March 10, 2009 Report Posted March 10, 2009 Since this is back up, I'll add something. There are times when Joan tells me that she is envious of the fact that I have a hobby that I can become so engrossed in. (I don't tell her that for me, "hobby" doesn't come close as a description. "A way of life" might be more accurate .) There are other times when she says kiddingly that she's thinking of putting my collection out in the front yard and selling everything for 10 cents each. I'll worry about that one when I think she's serious. (And I hope I'll be able to stop her before you guys find out.) Um...could I have her email address? And maybe directions to your house? Quote
AllenLowe Posted March 10, 2009 Report Posted March 10, 2009 mine wants me to sell the whole thing - and I'm tempted, in case anyone wants to make me a six figure offer (and I don't mean $333.000) Quote
AndrewHill Posted March 19, 2009 Report Posted March 19, 2009 Although my wife still thinks that most of my cd's sound like an "orchestra warming up" she encouraged me to buy proper cd shelves to house my collection, which was scattered about my office in heaping piles. I now have two shelves, when pushed together, amount to more than 8 feet in length and they stand over 6 1/2 feet tall and they're black. Even after I was finish shelving, she commented that it was a pretty impressive looking collection. The min-lp's don't all fit though except on the top shelf, but that's not a biggie. Quote
kinuta Posted March 19, 2009 Report Posted March 19, 2009 She thinks I'm odd but prefers it to my chasing other women ! Quote
ghost of miles Posted August 25, 2010 Report Posted August 25, 2010 NPR's A Blog Supreme: The Jazz Boyfriend Quote
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