BERIGAN Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 I got to thinking about this during the amazing Red Sox playoffs....NONE of my friends could give a damn about baseball!! GRRRR!!!! I soooo wanted to talk to a human about it, but after midnight, at least there was this board....But, it isn't just Baseball, most friends don't care for jazz(At least one guy likes Sinatra) I like movies from the 30's and 40's, but for the most part, my friends do not. My Best friend likes a handful of them, but he hates musicals,(I like Judy Garland as well, he wonders about me!) and would still much rather watch a new film. Just in the last few years, have I become friends with some car nuts, but most of my youth, my friends just saw cars as transportation. Sure, we may share some moral, political viewpoints(Though my best female friend is a die hard Kerry supporter! ) It just makes me wonder how I have ended up being good friends with people who don't share most of my interests.... So, everyone here have friends that are like clones of themselves??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DTMX Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 Oh hell no. I have to divide my friends into different groups - computer friends, movie friends, jazz friends, rock'n'roll friends, avant-garde classical music friends (currently zero), etc... I got used to being the outsider, even among friends, a looooong time ago. But sometimes you never know where someone's interests lie until you dig a little deeper - even if you've known them for a long time. There was a woman I'd known for a couple of years who never expressed an interest in music. When I brought up saxophonists she mentioned that she only had one jazz CD, but it featured a saxophone and she played it often. I'm expecting her to now ask me if I enjoy the music of the malodorous Kenny G and she says, "It's called A Love Supreme - is that a famous one?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JSngry Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 So, everyone here have friends that are like clones of themselves??? Oh HELL no! Even amongst my musicians friends, the ones who probably share the most with me in terms of overall "life outlook", there's atill a tremendous diversity of interests and intensities about those interests. The way I've come to look at it is that life's not a restaraunt, where you can go in and order what you want the way you like it anytime you get the urge. It's a big-ass potluck dinner that goes on 24/7. Sometimes you may have a really strong craving for Mrs. Beverly's 3 Bean Salad. So you go to the serving table, and what's this! Mrs. Beverly didn't feel like making 3 Bean Salad salad today. She brought salmon croquettes instead. YUCK! But Mrs. Beverly's still my friend, you know, and even though I hate salmon croquettes with a passion, Mrs. Beverly's still my friend, and I'll still tell anybody that will listen that she makes the beat 3 Bean Salad in the world. And besides, when I went over to check out the croquettes, I saw that Mr. Simpson's brought some braised spare ribs. Now, I only know Mr. Simpson from his overcooked pork loin, but hey, these ribs look pretty nice. So I take a sample. Hey! Mr. simpson's got it goin' on w/the ribs! I go find him and tell him how much I like them, and I got me another friend. I just won't tell him about his sorryass overcooked pork loin. No sense it throwing out the baby with the bathwater. Besides, some people like it that way. Thins is, I've got to bring some food to the potluck myself. I usually bring either smoked brisket or bananna pudding. Some of my friends like both, some one or the other, and a few neither. Oh well. We still all eat from the same table, right? And once in a while I was tunning late and can only bring a bucket of prefab chicken from Chick-O-Bird. NOBODY digs that, but they remember the brisket and/or the bananna pudding and let it slide. They even tease me about it, but that's ok, I can feel the love and it's all good. There's not a problem in life that can't be solved by looking at it through the perspective of your stomach! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A Lark Ascending Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 None of my friends like jazz. But then I don't like rock climbing, belly-dancing, football and all the things they individually love. We're friends because we enjoy one anothers company, not because we necessarily share interests. It'd be nice to have a friend who did like jazz, but...we'd probably lose all the others in jabbering about music all the time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmjk Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 Very different in some ways. Different can be seen on so many levels. I have lots of friends with the same interests who have totally different temperments, and attitudes. My favorite friends are the ones who have different interests than I have, but have that same attitude or outlook on life as me (often cynical, with sunspots here and there, and very rarely taken seriously). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joe G Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 There's usually some core similarities between me and my closest friends (sense of humor, tolerance of different religious/cultural viewpoints, etc.), with lots of diversions on the periphery. The most important thing is how I feel when I'm around them. I think the bottom line is that we all want to spend time with people who basically accept, appreciate, and love us for who we are. If you can find that in a friend, count yourself blessed. B-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shrdlu Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 "Bring a friend, if you have one!" - George Shaw, the playwright. That's quite a story, DTMX. I am very impressed with your friend! I have always had a shortage of friends who really like jazz. You can't force it upon anyone, and I wouldn't try. My Dad, who was 31 years older than me, always liked good jazz, and was quite open-minded about recent styles, even though swing was his thing. He liked Trane playing slow numbers, but drew the line at Eric Dolphy! My Dad, and my Mom, who is still alive and well, have been two of my best friends. I also have found that my best friends now are those that I have known since I was a student or grad student. Although I get along very easily with most people, including many with whom I disagree theologically, I have not found it as easy to make good friends in later life as I did when I was younger. I am very glad that I get along pretty well with my neighbors - in fact everything in my home is permanently borrowed from Flanders next-door! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazzbo Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 (edited) My closest friends it turns out share with me a reversion to televised sports, and watching sports in general. Playing is one thing, perfectly respected among us. Having to pay extra on all sorts of things we purchase to fund advertising and promotion for televised sports rankles us! Otherwise my friends have a variety of interests, there's almost always something shared and much that is not. I have many friends, a few close friends, and am ultimately quite an introvert (as my wife is). I'm a professional extrovert by trade, I have a lot of friends and make friends easily (I think it's all about RESPECT) and yet I have always had an intimate life with only a few friends in my lifetime. Edited October 23, 2004 by jazzbo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheldonm Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 One of my best friends is Jim Neumann of BeeHive Records, who's love for jazz is unsurpassed so in regards to jazz, I'm covered. I don't really have any other friends that I hang with on a regular basis that enjoy jazz although I consider some on this board that I have met in person (Rachel, Sal, Ghost) to be friends. Most of my friends like sports so I'm good there. I'm a big fan of history, architecture, travel and photography and have various friends that enjoy one of more of the above. I check in on this board several times per day if possible as I can always find many like minded people here! I guess I'm pretty lucky. M- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
porcy62 Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 I tend to see friends as a matter of history. I have a couple of good friends from school days, but I can see them often, because we live in different city. I have more good friends from university years, but I can see them often, because we live in different city. I have found some friends in my workplace. I have a couple of neighbours that are good friends. If you have children you meet other parents at school's reunion and they could become "friend". Actually in my life I passed across a lot of phases: from sport to politic, from music to motorbike, from travelling to cinema, from climbing to cooking, from sex to drugs to rock'n roll, not in a specific order! So I meet a lot of people: we shared a period of life with its passions, interests, and some of them still are "friends" even if we had and have complete different life and opinions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chuck Nessa Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 Friends? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connoisseur series500 Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 (edited) Friends? I knew it!! Edited October 23, 2004 by connoisseur series500 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JSngry Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 No need for despair. There's always You can keep busy doin' nothin'and have the tlme of your life. THAT'S what friends are for! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Free For All Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 The Smurfs are here to help! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JSngry Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 The Smurfs are here to help! I ain't laughin'. I lost a good woman to Smurfette back in the late 70s. It hurts a man deeply when his woman leaves him for another woman, especially a blue one. Thing is, once the series got cancelled and all the money was gone, this tramp comes back to me asking me to "forgive" her. "Go eat a bluefish," was what I told her. But I was crying on the inside. I wanted to forgive her. And yes, I was feeling more than a little blue. But a man has his pride. Besides, I was already married by then. To a GREAT woman. A woman who loves me, and who doesn't go looking in the closet for cheap thrills with some blue cartoon skank. Damn them Smurfs. Damn them all to hell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shrdlu Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 M- Does that mean that your friends are mint minus? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheldonm Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 M- Does that mean that your friends are mint minus? You LP collectors are crazy ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
7/4 Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 Off the net, I am Dr. Funkenstein. They are not. Seriously, most the friends I have outside of my day job are some kind of musican or artist or record store hound. We all love music and at least some kind of jazz. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazzmoose Posted October 24, 2004 Report Share Posted October 24, 2004 I'm not trying to sound corny here, but the biggest difference between me and my best friend is that she's female and I'm male. And she sleeps on the right side of the bed while I have the left side. Except those cool nights when we meet in the middle. Seriously, I don't hang with friends that much anymore. Guess I'm whipped... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noj Posted October 24, 2004 Report Share Posted October 24, 2004 An introvert among extroverts, that's me. I've got a funny bunch of friends, same ones since junior high. I don't see them nearly as often as I used to, and that's fine by me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthew Posted October 24, 2004 Report Share Posted October 24, 2004 (edited) Way different. "Who the heck is Anthony Braxton?" kind of thing going on. Plus, I pretty much have to be dull in public also. Edited October 24, 2004 by Matthew Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
7/4 Posted October 24, 2004 Report Share Posted October 24, 2004 Way different. "Who the heck is Anthony Braxton?" kind of thing going on. Plus, I pretty much have to be dull in public also. Well...some of my friends get the freeer jazz, the other ones don't. I listen to both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim Alfredson Posted October 25, 2004 Report Share Posted October 25, 2004 Friends? I like you, Chuck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connoisseur series500 Posted October 25, 2004 Report Share Posted October 25, 2004 Friends? I like you, Chuck. I do too, but that doesn't mean he has any friends... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tim McG Posted October 25, 2004 Report Share Posted October 25, 2004 How different are you from your friends???? None of my friends [save my Best Friend...who would give you the shirt off his back] dig Jazz. Nobody I know cares about politics like I do, nobody gives a tinker's damn if Bush destroys the environment. I am surrounded by people who just have no clue about what it used to be like back in the Vietnam Era when the government controlled us the way they do now. I am a lost soul in a sea of blindness. No shit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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