Kasper

My late brother-in-law who ironically was my friend before he met my sister died. We were both born on March 31st though on different years. Ever since my sister married him and later when my niece was born, understandably they celebrated his birthday and I celebrated mine separately because we had different interests. There may have been a year or two when we lived closer and we had a celebratory cake or something but that wasn't often it was probably a lot earlier in their relationship. He died about 6 years ago and now my my sister & my niece celebrate his birthday and call it Spanksgiving due to his nickname, and choose that over celebrating my living birthday with me. We live about 80 miles apart but I always try to make it to visit for my niece's birthday and for my sisters when I can but often she's been out of state visiting other relatives for her birthday when it's near Thanksgiving which is a whole other story. She would rather travel out of state than 80 miles away to our house. Regardless I know it's terrible that my brother-in-law died, but I'm still alive - I'm here - I'm alive - can't they celebrate with me? They can celebrate his life any day of the year. I'm sorry but he died and so he doesn't care if it happens on his birthday, in fact he doesn't care at all now, he died. I do care and it hurts my feelings.